Courtesy manuals are older (Castiglione’s Courtier). Rogers, Goffman and later ToM labs made “skill with people” a research object. Business books then sold it as charm.
The timeline below follows dated arguments and institutions, not a national myth of genius and not a group ranking.
Origin
20th c. social psychology + therapy · US / Europe — Courtesy manuals are older (Castiglione’s Courtier). Rogers, Goffman and later ToM labs made “skill with people” a research object. Business books then sold it as charm.
Timeline
- Castiglione’s Courtier
Sprezzatura as trained social ease — an early talent theory of manners.
- Carnegie’s How to Win Friends
US popularisation with a sales spine.
- Rogers’s Client-Centered Therapy
Specified listening conditions.
- Goffman’s Presentation of Self
Face-work as everyday theatre.
- ToM / false-belief tasks
A developmental lab for reading minds — not a charm school.
- Gardner’s interpersonal intelligence
A classroom name; psychometric independence later contested.
- Salovey & Mayer EI
A tighter emotion-processing construct (see EI page).
- Goleman’s popular EI
A boom that mixed interpersonal skill with a brand.
- MI critiques
Waterhouse/Visser: do not print an interpersonal IQ.
- Digital cue loss
Skill in rooms versus skill on feeds — a new split.
Eras
- Courtesy manuals — Castiglione — Trained ease.
- Sales popularisation — Carnegie — A US export.
- Clinical listening — Rogers — Specified conditions.
- Everyday theatre — Goffman — Face-work.
- Brand era — Goleman mashup — Skill as a product.
Shifts
- From manners to method 1951 — Rogers’s conditions.
- From room to feed 2010s — Cues drop out.
- From IQ-box to craft 2006 — MI humility.
Interpersonal talent: keep the dates visible. Names of talents are younger than the work they try to capture.