Development here follows Gagné-like honesty: aptitudes, practice and catalysts. Interpersonal talent is not a finished essence.
Windows differ by domain. A closed sport window is not a closed writing window. Read the clocks.
Stages
- Listen and play back
Rogers homework.
Congruence later.
- Name a face-threat
Goffman.
Tact as labour.
- Repair a miss
The second try.
Adult skill.
- Switch register on purpose
Code, not fake.
Culture.
- Ask who is missing
Addams civic.
Inclusion.
- Refuse a diagnosis game
Not a clinic.
Ethics.
Levers
- Playback habit — The cheap method.
- Mixed rooms — Transfer.
- Display-rule literacy — Worldwide honesty.
- Ethics — Skill without care is fraud craft.
- Digital/room split — Name which file.
Windows
- Early peer play — ToM timetable.
- Adolescent status games — High risk of charm false positives.
- First job with strangers — Where many adults actually learn.
- Cross-culture moves — A late, large lever.
Supports
- Counselling-skills labs — Rogers-derived.
- Settlement / community centres — Addams heir.
- School circles that teach repair — Not only punish.
- Language-host families — Pragmatics as infrastructure.
Interpersonal talent: catalysts and windows do the daily work. Destiny talk is the failure mode.