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Anxiety, sleep loss, somatic complaints before tests, cheating under panic, and perfectionism that blocks starting are common. Teen identity may collapse into a major or a ranking. Emotional life thins when only outcomes are narrated. Children stop bringing messy feelings because feelings do not raise percentiles.
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Praise, pressure and conditional worth · paras 1
The body stays in evaluation mode: homework as threat, rest as guilt, peers as rivals. Mistakes trigger shame spikes rather than curiosity. Some children become star performers; others quit to escape the scoreboard. Siblings compared aloud inherit a zero-sum home. The “successful” child carries fear of falling; the other carries a story of deficit.
Praise, pressure and conditional worth · paras 1
Anxiety, sleep loss, somatic complaints before tests, cheating under panic, and perfectionism that blocks starting are common. Teen identity may collapse into a major or a ranking. Emotional life thins when only outcomes are narrated. Children stop bringing messy feelings because feelings do not raise percentiles.
Praise, pressure and conditional worth · paras 1
Adults from conditional-worth homes often overwork, fear rest, or feel fraudulent despite success. Relationships can become performance stages. Burnout arrives early because the nervous system never learned “enough.” Some rebel into avoidance; others become harsh critics of their own children — recycling the climate that once kept them safe through achievement.
Praise, pressure and conditional worth · paras 1
Describe process and values: strategy, persistence, repair after error, kindness under stress. Celebrate rest as part of learning. Keep love statements untied to score reports. High standards can coexist with unconditional belonging. The sentence pair is: “I expect effort” and “you are mine when you fail.”
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Adults from conditional-worth homes often overwork, fear rest, or feel fraudulent despite success. Relationships can become performance stages. Burnout arrives early because the nervous system never learned “enough.” Some rebel into avoidance; others become harsh critics of their own children — recycling the climate that once kept them safe through achievement.
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This is education from the atlas. It does not diagnose and does not prescribe a dose. It does not replace the full topic page.
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Describe process and values: strategy, persistence, repair after error, kindness under stress. Celebrate rest as part of learning. Keep love statements untied to score reports. High standards can coexist with unconditional belonging. The sentence pair is: “I expect effort” and “you are mine when you fail.”
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